There are many ways to describe the difficult choices that we face. A dilemma can be defined as a situation requiring a choice between equally undesirable alternatives. It’s a state of being in which evils or obstacles present themselves on every side, and it is difficult to determine what course to pursue. It comes from the Greek terms “di-“ (two) and “lemma” (premise). If there are three options to choose from, this would be called a trilemma, and more than three options would lead to a polylemma. In practice, however, dilemma can be used to describe more than two options as well.
Although it means something entirely different, the term paradox is often used in relation to dilemmas. A paradox is a self-contradicting statement or proposition that contains some truth. “I always lie” would be a paradox, or “One must sometimes be cruel to be kind”. The term paradox also has a Greek background. Para means ‘contrary to’ and doxa means ‘opinion’. In other words, a paradox represents something other than what you would normally think. Contrary to a dilemma, a paradox doesn’t force you to choose, it is more of a conceptual exercise.
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